“When a man takes
his time to caress his lover’s mouth with deep, passionate kisses not only will
he be awarded with increased arousal; he may actually awaken a full-blown
orgasm for her.”
According to the Kama Sutra, a woman’s mouth perfectly
mirrors her genitals: the lips like the labia, the Cupid’s bow like the
clitoris and the hard palate just above the front teeth like the G-spot.
When a man takes his time to caress his lover’s mouth
with deep, passionate kisses, not only will he be awarded with increased
arousal; he may actually awaken a full-blown orgasm for her.
There are tons of nerve endings in your lips (100 times more than in
your fingertips!) That stimulate desire. That is why smooching before, during,
and after sex can be extremely arousing and satisfying (Krista bloom, PHD, author of the ultimate compatibility quiz).
6 Tips And
Techniques To An Orgasmic Kiss
1. How to Start
your Day?
Frankly, not many people use these advanced preparation
techniques. It is not always practical as way, as sometimes the orgasmic kissing
opportunity appears suddenly, and you should use it, or you may lose it forever.
However, if you want to be prepared as much as possible, you may start such at
the beginning of the day of meeting your partner. I am talking about exfoliating
your lips, bringing them to the best, the most sensible and the most sensitive
state. Yes, you can exfoliate the lips! Start by taking some Vaseline and
putting on your lips. Leave the Vaseline on for five minutes, and then take a
warm face cloth and in a gentle circular motion rub the towel around the lips
removing the dead skin. Once you are done, place a light coat of Vaseline back
on the lips. Soft lips make for the best kisses.
2. Hygienic Check
Kissing combines the three senses of taste, touch and
smell with each being capable of eliciting strong, sexual responses from your
partner. So make sure your teeth are brushed and flossed, and your breath is
minty fresh.
Also, consider using a scraper to clean your tongue as
well as an old toothbrush to exfoliate your lips. This will make your mouth a
supreme instrument for seductive kissing.
That is the obvious suggestion, but still worth to
mention. Shower. You should never go on a date without having showered shortly
before. If you showered in the morning before you went out and you have a date
at 8:00 PM, you need to shower again. A girl will not enjoy being close to you
if you smell bad.
3. Perfect Mood
To achieve state of the perfect orgasmic kiss, your
spiritual and emotional state should be right for that, and your body should be
fine-tuned for that. You have to place your mind in a state where you are aware
of all the sensations that bring you pleasure while you are kissing your
partner. Perform mini self-meditation session to set aside all troublesome
thoughts and worrisome life events you are living through, at the moment. Try
to get to the “here-and-now” state of mind, when you and your partner are the
only living creatures in the mini-universe.
As soon as you are getting distracted, you are starting emotionally
losing your partner, no matter how hard you are trying to follow the
recommended techniques to bring her the sensual and sexual pleasure. If your
hormones are not “boiling”, it may be hard to get her hormones “boiling” as
well.
If you have physical pain in your body, try to take
painkillers ahead of time to minimize the risk your negative physical
sensations may spoil your date.
4. Foreplay
Just as sufficient foreplay is needed to increase arousal
and achieve orgasm during penetrative sex; the same rule also applies to a
mouth orgasm. Rather than merely plunging your tongue into her mouth à la
French kiss, build intensity and arousal by first softly licking and nipping
around her mouth.
Combine love-bites and licks over the Cupid’s bow, into
the corners and just beneath her lower lip. Include the sucking of her top and
bottom lips. Alternate this with a soft swishing of your lips back and forth
against hers and then pulling back to flick your tongue against her mouth.
These techniques will increase blood flow to her lips
creating a wonderful tingling sensation.
5. How to Start?
Start by picking a perfect position for your kiss. If you
are trying to make your woman reach orgasm by just kissing, you have to make
sure that the position is perfect. Your body should completely touch hers. This
way, you both will get excited and the fire will burn more and more between you
two. Make sure that your erogenous zones especially lower body touches hers.
This way you can easily excite your woman and help her reach orgasm. You will
also be excited as the touch of a woman is killing! Be smart enough to use body
movements while giving her the orgasmic kiss. Pushing your body against hers is
a sexy trick that works well!
Whatever position you are in, take your hand and place it
on the back of your partners neck. The palm of your hand should be at the base
of the head and neck. Place the thumb right behind the ear. You can use your
fingers to play with their hair. Now tilt the head to the desired position.
Gently pull your partner towards you. Gently rub your
lips against theirs and take notice of the softness of your partner’s lips. Use
the tip of your tongue to lick your partner’s lips, and when the moment is
right, insert the tip of your tongue inside her mouth, and then pull back. You
want to take your tongue and circle the tip of your partner’s tongue with yours
and pull back. Try licking the top, underside, and the sides of their tongue
and pull back. You want to continue doing this with rhythmic movements.
Men initiate open-mouth kissing to transfer libido-boosting
testosterone to their partner. So when he's getting a little more aggressive, it's
not just about his desire — he wants you to be a bit more amorous too (Study by the University at Albany).
6. Gentle Tickle
and Dart
After the first few kisses, lightly tickle your partner's
lips with the tip of your tongue. You do not want to lather his lips; just
brush across them lightly like a butterfly's wings. This move conveys a touch
of innocence tinged with a willingness to explore, and it can be very enticing
to the person you are kissing.
Then gently press the tip of your tongue against your
partner's lips. When your partner opens her lips to accept you, slowly and
softly dart your tongue into his mouth and then pull it back out. You can
continue darting your tongue in and out, as you vary the length of the contact.
Take a cue from your partner's own response and do what feels natural to you
both.
7. Attention to Details
Since people often give out what they would like to
receive, pay attention to the way she kisses you — that's probably the way she
wants you to kiss her.
When her lips are swollen and darker in color, it
indicates that she is more than ready for you to take the plunge; much like her
labia. Begin teasing her by gently sliding your tongue back and forth and in
and out of her mouth.
Keep in mind that success with French kissing hinges on
you relaxing your lips and opening your mouth only about halfway.
If you notice an increase in your saliva (this occurs naturally,
as men become aroused) and wish to avoid slobbering, simply retract your
tongue, kiss her lips with a closed mouth and take a moment to swallow the
excess saliva before inserting your tongue again.
8. Soft Murmur
You may murmur a little "Mmm..." once in a
while, as you're kissing. The sound alone lets your partner know how much you
are enjoying the kiss, but the soft vibration this creates against his lips
just might send a shiver through him.
Be careful not to murmur too much because it can be
distracting and may even seem a little fake. Let the sound escape your lips naturally,
when you are really feeling that kiss.
9. Spice It Up
When French kissing your lover, loosen your tongue and
switch between flicking, lapping and poking. Include the occasional light
sucking of her tongue.
Turn your mouth into a soft suctioning apparatus on her
tongue. If you would like, suck on her tongue mimicking the way you would suck
on her clitoris. She will catch on quite quickly and perhaps after that you can
let her suck on your finger so that she can return the favor.
An especially seductive technique to try is the swirl and
poke. With your mouth relaxed, you alternate a swirling action with your tongue
with a poking action.
10. Secret Little
Spots
The roof of a women’s mouth is a highly sensitive but
often neglected erogenous zone. It is also directly connected to her G-spot.
Begin by French kissing and then simply stretch your tongue up to the roof
(palate) of her mouth where you gently rub and flick it.
This technique will certainly make her shudder since it
is unexpected, ticklish and quite intense.
Another titillating technique is to run your tongue along
the inside of her upper lip. Women have
claimed that this move have actually made their knees buckle!
11. Play with her Lips
If licking her lips makes you antsy and quickly wanting
more, then begin sucking on her lips — one at a time though, no one wants to
feel as though they have stuck their mouth on an opened vacuum.
Be careful when you suck on her lips; don't get too rough
or you'll end up giving her a hickey, and I have yet to meet a woman who would
appreciate that.
12. The Perfect Tempo
The best chance of triggering her mouth orgasm is to
create a sensual rhythm. With all your probing and retreating, pushing and
pulling and soft and rough kissing; it will take no time for the pulsating
tempo to move from her mouth to the apex of her thighs; causing her to throb
and swell in lust.
13. Do not Forget
to Breathe
Take regular breaks to pull away and look into your
partner's eyes. It will give you a chance to catch your breath and share a
smile. Remember that it is not a sport competition, and you should not stretch
yours or your partner’s abilities beyond the natural physiological limits. Everything
should be easy, pleasurable, and fun.
Make sure that you give her a chance to breathe properly,
so occasionally break off your mouth-to-mouth assault, and kiss her on other
places of her face and body.
14. Be in Control
The next time you are kissing her, hold her face with
your hands and kiss her the way you would like to be kissed. If the fact that you
are taking control does not turn her on, then your sensual tongue will surely
do the trick.
Try not to bump noses. To assure there will be no
collision, slightly angle your face.
15. Perfect Invasion
Invading is a bold move designed to elicit a big
response, and you should only do it if your partner is into full contact
Frenching. When passions run high and the moment seems right, extend your
tongue all the way into your partner's mouth using a combination of darting and
swirling.
When you are invading, these techniques are bigger and
bolder, but you still have to be careful not to overdo them. Otherwise, you run
the risk of gagging your partner, and that is the surest way to ruin an awesome
kiss.
The biggest mistakes men make in kissing is that they overpower a woman
early on--diving straight into deep-mouth kissing--whereas a lot of women
prefer to build up to that. So I tell men to think of kissing as a seduction
that should start off simply and build in intensity as things progress (Eric Amaranth, sex-life consultant).
16. Move Beyond
Do not be shy, you are not confined to kissing just her
lips — there is a whole face and body to explore. Why not French kiss her chin,
her neck and her breasts? Or, kiss her eyes, the spot behind her ears or her
wrists.
You would be surprised at the beneficial results that
creativity can reap. All you really need is the willingness to try anything. If
you have never been complimented on your kissing techniques before, now you
will know the basics of being a professional kisser.
On the other hand, if, when you kiss a woman and then
pull back, her eyes stay closed for just a moment longer, it usually means that
she thoroughly enjoyed the kiss and there is a good chance that you can further
seduce her if you like.
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