“When a man takes his time to caress his lover’s mouth with deep, passionate kisses not only will he be awarded with increased arousal; he may actually awaken a full-blown orgasm for her.”
According to the Kama Sutra, a woman’s mouth perfectly mirrors her genitals: the lips like the labia, the Cupid’s bow like the clitoris and the hard palate just above the front teeth like the G-spot.
When a man takes his time to caress his lover’s mouth with deep, passionate kisses, not only will he be awarded with increased arousal; he may actually awaken a full-blown orgasm for her.
There are tons of nerve endings in your lips (100 times more than in your fingertips!) That stimulate desire. That is why smooching before, during, and after sex can be extremely arousing and satisfying (Krista bloom, PHD, author of the ultimate compatibility quiz).
6 Tips And Techniques To An Orgasmic Kiss
1. How to Start your Day?
Frankly, not many people use these advanced preparation techniques. It is not always practical as way, as sometimes the orgasmic kissing opportunity appears suddenly, and you should use it, or you may lose it forever. However, if you want to be prepared as much as possible, you may start such at the beginning of the day of meeting your partner. I am talking about exfoliating your lips, bringing them to the best, the most sensible and the most sensitive state. Yes, you can exfoliate the lips! Start by taking some Vaseline and putting on your lips. Leave the Vaseline on for five minutes, and then take a warm face cloth and in a gentle circular motion rub the towel around the lips removing the dead skin. Once you are done, place a light coat of Vaseline back on the lips. Soft lips make for the best kisses.
2. Hygienic Check
Kissing combines the three senses of taste, touch and smell with each being capable of eliciting strong, sexual responses from your partner. So make sure your teeth are brushed and flossed, and your breath is minty fresh.
Also, consider using a scraper to clean your tongue as well as an old toothbrush to exfoliate your lips. This will make your mouth a supreme instrument for seductive kissing.
That is the obvious suggestion, but still worth to mention. Shower. You should never go on a date without having showered shortly before. If you showered in the morning before you went out and you have a date at 8:00 PM, you need to shower again. A girl will not enjoy being close to you if you smell bad.
3. Perfect Mood
To achieve state of the perfect orgasmic kiss, your spiritual and emotional state should be right for that, and your body should be fine-tuned for that. You have to place your mind in a state where you are aware of all the sensations that bring you pleasure while you are kissing your partner. Perform mini self-meditation session to set aside all troublesome thoughts and worrisome life events you are living through, at the moment. Try to get to the “here-and-now” state of mind, when you and your partner are the only living creatures in the mini-universe.
As soon as you are getting distracted, you are starting emotionally losing your partner, no matter how hard you are trying to follow the recommended techniques to bring her the sensual and sexual pleasure. If your hormones are not “boiling”, it may be hard to get her hormones “boiling” as well.
If you have physical pain in your body, try to take painkillers ahead of time to minimize the risk your negative physical sensations may spoil your date.
Just as sufficient foreplay is needed to increase arousal and achieve orgasm during penetrative sex; the same rule also applies to a mouth orgasm. Rather than merely plunging your tongue into her mouth à la French kiss, build intensity and arousal by first softly licking and nipping around her mouth.
Combine love-bites and licks over the Cupid’s bow, into the corners and just beneath her lower lip. Include the sucking of her top and bottom lips. Alternate this with a soft swishing of your lips back and forth against hers and then pulling back to flick your tongue against her mouth.
These techniques will increase blood flow to her lips creating a wonderful tingling sensation.
5. How to Start?
Start by picking a perfect position for your kiss. If you are trying to make your woman reach orgasm by just kissing, you have to make sure that the position is perfect. Your body should completely touch hers. This way, you both will get excited and the fire will burn more and more between you two. Make sure that your erogenous zones especially lower body touches hers. This way you can easily excite your woman and help her reach orgasm. You will also be excited as the touch of a woman is killing! Be smart enough to use body movements while giving her the orgasmic kiss. Pushing your body against hers is a sexy trick that works well!
Whatever position you are in, take your hand and place it on the back of your partners neck. The palm of your hand should be at the base of the head and neck. Place the thumb right behind the ear. You can use your fingers to play with their hair. Now tilt the head to the desired position.
Gently pull your partner towards you. Gently rub your lips against theirs and take notice of the softness of your partner’s lips. Use the tip of your tongue to lick your partner’s lips, and when the moment is right, insert the tip of your tongue inside her mouth, and then pull back. You want to take your tongue and circle the tip of your partner’s tongue with yours and pull back. Try licking the top, underside, and the sides of their tongue and pull back. You want to continue doing this with rhythmic movements.
Men initiate open-mouth kissing to transfer libido-boosting testosterone to their partner. So when he's getting a little more aggressive, it's not just about his desire — he wants you to be a bit more amorous too (Study by the University at Albany).
6. Gentle Tickle and Dart
After the first few kisses, lightly tickle your partner's lips with the tip of your tongue. You do not want to lather his lips; just brush across them lightly like a butterfly's wings. This move conveys a touch of innocence tinged with a willingness to explore, and it can be very enticing to the person you are kissing.
Then gently press the tip of your tongue against your partner's lips. When your partner opens her lips to accept you, slowly and softly dart your tongue into his mouth and then pull it back out. You can continue darting your tongue in and out, as you vary the length of the contact. Take a cue from your partner's own response and do what feels natural to you both.
7. Attention to Details
Since people often give out what they would like to receive, pay attention to the way she kisses you — that's probably the way she wants you to kiss her.
When her lips are swollen and darker in color, it indicates that she is more than ready for you to take the plunge; much like her labia. Begin teasing her by gently sliding your tongue back and forth and in and out of her mouth.
Keep in mind that success with French kissing hinges on you relaxing your lips and opening your mouth only about halfway.
If you notice an increase in your saliva (this occurs naturally, as men become aroused) and wish to avoid slobbering, simply retract your tongue, kiss her lips with a closed mouth and take a moment to swallow the excess saliva before inserting your tongue again.
8. Soft Murmur
You may murmur a little "Mmm..." once in a while, as you're kissing. The sound alone lets your partner know how much you are enjoying the kiss, but the soft vibration this creates against his lips just might send a shiver through him.
Be careful not to murmur too much because it can be distracting and may even seem a little fake. Let the sound escape your lips naturally, when you are really feeling that kiss.
9. Spice It Up
When French kissing your lover, loosen your tongue and switch between flicking, lapping and poking. Include the occasional light sucking of her tongue.
Turn your mouth into a soft suctioning apparatus on her tongue. If you would like, suck on her tongue mimicking the way you would suck on her clitoris. She will catch on quite quickly and perhaps after that you can let her suck on your finger so that she can return the favor.
An especially seductive technique to try is the swirl and poke. With your mouth relaxed, you alternate a swirling action with your tongue with a poking action.
10. Secret Little Spots
The roof of a women’s mouth is a highly sensitive but often neglected erogenous zone. It is also directly connected to her G-spot. Begin by French kissing and then simply stretch your tongue up to the roof (palate) of her mouth where you gently rub and flick it.
This technique will certainly make her shudder since it is unexpected, ticklish and quite intense.
Another titillating technique is to run your tongue along the inside of her upper lip. Women have claimed that this move have actually made their knees buckle!
11. Play with her Lips
If licking her lips makes you antsy and quickly wanting more, then begin sucking on her lips — one at a time though, no one wants to feel as though they have stuck their mouth on an opened vacuum.
Be careful when you suck on her lips; don't get too rough or you'll end up giving her a hickey, and I have yet to meet a woman who would appreciate that.
12. The Perfect Tempo
The best chance of triggering her mouth orgasm is to create a sensual rhythm. With all your probing and retreating, pushing and pulling and soft and rough kissing; it will take no time for the pulsating tempo to move from her mouth to the apex of her thighs; causing her to throb and swell in lust.
13. Do not Forget to Breathe
Take regular breaks to pull away and look into your partner's eyes. It will give you a chance to catch your breath and share a smile. Remember that it is not a sport competition, and you should not stretch yours or your partner’s abilities beyond the natural physiological limits. Everything should be easy, pleasurable, and fun.
Make sure that you give her a chance to breathe properly, so occasionally break off your mouth-to-mouth assault, and kiss her on other places of her face and body.
14. Be in Control
The next time you are kissing her, hold her face with your hands and kiss her the way you would like to be kissed. If the fact that you are taking control does not turn her on, then your sensual tongue will surely do the trick.
Try not to bump noses. To assure there will be no collision, slightly angle your face.
15. Perfect Invasion
Invading is a bold move designed to elicit a big response, and you should only do it if your partner is into full contact Frenching. When passions run high and the moment seems right, extend your tongue all the way into your partner's mouth using a combination of darting and swirling.
When you are invading, these techniques are bigger and bolder, but you still have to be careful not to overdo them. Otherwise, you run the risk of gagging your partner, and that is the surest way to ruin an awesome kiss.
The biggest mistakes men make in kissing is that they overpower a woman early on--diving straight into deep-mouth kissing--whereas a lot of women prefer to build up to that. So I tell men to think of kissing as a seduction that should start off simply and build in intensity as things progress (Eric Amaranth, sex-life consultant).
16. Move Beyond
Do not be shy, you are not confined to kissing just her lips — there is a whole face and body to explore. Why not French kiss her chin, her neck and her breasts? Or, kiss her eyes, the spot behind her ears or her wrists.
You would be surprised at the beneficial results that creativity can reap. All you really need is the willingness to try anything. If you have never been complimented on your kissing techniques before, now you will know the basics of being a professional kisser.
On the other hand, if, when you kiss a woman and then pull back, her eyes stay closed for just a moment longer, it usually means that she thoroughly enjoyed the kiss and there is a good chance that you can further seduce her if you like.
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